I'm just a gigolo!

The Urban Panther has labelled me a rogue and a scamp.  A rogue and a scamp? Me? Perhaps.... but before I wear the hat, let's look up the following definitions:

Rogue:
a playfully mischievous person

Scamp:
1. an unscrupulous and often mischievous person; rascal; rogue; scalawag. 
2. a playful, mischievous, or naughty young person; upstart. 

Urbane:
1. having the polish and suavity regarded as characteristic of sophisticated social life in major cities: an urbane manner. 
2. reflecting elegance, sophistication, etc., esp. in expression: He maintained an urbane tone in his letters.

I do have to admit that I just looove women. What do I like most about women? Aside from the cleavage of course, their smile will give me a long lasting high. I have no preference. From toddlers to women who are living on borrowed time. From top models to the ones who lost out on the good looks lottery. They are all fair game! Just give me that smile.

And, contrary to the Panther's assumptions, there is no ulterior motive to my behavior except to make women smile or laugh. Of course, I sometimes get more than I ask in return. I did not get an extra serving of foie gras at Navarra's but I sure did get a huge serving! Our female friend did not serve me any more wine because she was worried about the wine staining her pants. And by the time she got back, my glass was full again. But, in both cases I made these women smile, laugh even!

Although there is a very fine line between this type of behavior and outright flirting, I am always very careful not to cross that line. This has served me well all of my life (especially when I was single!) and I have no intention of stopping now. I do admit though that the biggest high I get is when I work over the Panther. The combination of her perfect smile with her sparkly eyes sends me to Cloud 9 everytime! And, she usually gets me my espresso too!

So? Now with all this new information, which definition suits me best? Rogue, scamp, or urbane?

Comments

[Sal]

From the sounds of it I would have to toss in for Scamp. Why? Because it also contains the rouge aspect. Not that I don't think you are urbane, but that would commit a lack of presence to your natural habitat and personality. Besides, who better to swoon the lionesses (is that even a word) ...ahem I mean panther than the king of the jungle. Am I right or am I right?

[Kelly]

Lion,

I don't think there's much wrong with being called flirtatious, and not having been there for the discussion, I'd say it doesn't sound as though she thinks you have intentions of going off with attentive waitresses.

I suspect the correct phrase is "incorrigible flirt." :) Wine from a pant leg?

But since you don't like the word, how about "urbane scamp"? Pleasant images of Errol Flynn and John Barrymore go through my head.

Regards,

Kelly

[XUP]

Ya, the wine sucking thing has me stumped. There's nothing urbane about that and it's in a whole different universe from flirting, scamping or roguing -- it's closer to weird, I think. But then I wasn't there. Also, I don't understand your sweeping statement about "loving women". I never get what that means when someone says it. How can you love an entire human gender without consideration of the reality of each individual member of that gender and without loving the other human gender equally. It always says to me that you're not considering women as human beings or as individuals. Why not just say I love human beings? I'm really curious what you mean by "I love women."

[Alex Fayle]

I agree with Kelly - incorrigible flirt or urbane scamp...

[Urbane Lion]

Sal: This is where I wish I mastered the English language a little better! As a man, I trust your opinion but I'm not so sure about the input coming from our female readers. I've taken quite a bashing on the Panther's site!

Kelly: Incorrigible flirt, urbane scamp....!? I'm all for it if they bring pleasant images to your mind! You'll just have to add me next to Errol Flynn and John Barrymore!

[Urbane Lion]

XUP: Perhaps I should have added 'women in general'. I always take a fresh approach when I first meet someone, be they male or female. Even if I have previous knowledge from someone else, I would rather get to know that person before buying into hearsay. But, let's just say that I approach women differently than men. I really enjoy meeting new people so I guess you can say that I love human beings but, I have to admit that I have more fun meeting new women. It may be because I usually find men too macho with discussions limited to cars and sports and things very often just turn into a pissing contest. Women on the other hand are much different and there is no feeling of competition or territorial disputes. And...I'm just addicted to their laughter (well, most of them!)

Alex: OK, I'll have some T-shirts printed up! LOL

[Vered]

"there is no ulterior motive to my behavior except to make women smile or laugh."

That's what I told her. That it sounds like you are just having fun. I do the same so I can relate. I think it's harmless!

[Urbane Lion]

Ooooh Vered you big flirt you!!!

[James Chartrand - Men with Pens]

Maudit français n'etait pas sur ta liste... J'me fais traiter celle-la souvent; ça doit être pareil pour vous?

[Urbane Lion]

James: There's a positive side to everything. One of my future post will be on the advantages for a Frenchman to date and English speaking woman. Your input will be more than welcomed! LOL

[Al at 7P]

Urbane Lion,

Regarding the woman's leg-sucking, I have to agree that it's past the point of just being rogue or scamp. It's well past even the point of being a flirt. It's so over the top, the only word for it is, "brilliant!"

All kidding aside, all this playfulness can only be appreciated when there is a very healthy level of confidence between a couple, and it sure looks like you and the Urban Panther have that!

[Urbane Lion]

Al: The Panther and I do enjoy a high level of confidence and are very confortable in voicing anything that bothers us. Of course, the lucky lady who got the wine sucked out of her pants is pushing 70. Like I said in my post, my only goal is to make the women giggle, laugh and feel beautiful. I would not have done it if I had known it would have made the lady in question unconfortable. Glad you though it was brilliant. You are more than welcomed to use it next time you're at a party!

[Kelly]

Lion, James,

Cursed with being French? Hm. See, now I would say, "I love men," and though I'm probably more of a flirt while single, I'm also probably always flirtatious, and I consider myself Irish (part French, but not enough to avoid babelfish when James shows up). A lot of my favorite and most remembered flirtatious people have been Irish.

I know, I know, French like to believe they invented and perfected love, but at the risk of getting serious, I think y'all just get the good p.r. on this one. I've found flirtation to be a personality thing, not an ethnicity thing.

Until later,

Kelly

[Barbara Swafford]

Hi Urbane Lion,

If your goal in life is to make women smile or laugh, you're alright in my book, even if you did suck wine off of some woman's pant leg. You probably made her day!

[Kristin Fitzgerald]

I agree with Barbara. The subtleties between the words aren't what is important - I mean why try to define the lion by a single word! A man who can make me smile, laugh or make me feel special is priceless!

[Urbane Lion]

Kelly: While I agree that flirtation just may be a personality thing, it is seen most often in people of Latin origin (that's us Frenchmen!). I'm sure that James will agree that as Frenchmen we have a huge responsability towards women.....LOL

Barbara: I sure did get a nice hug out of her when we left the party!

Kristin: Not too sure about the priceless part but the Panther is my pimp. You can work out the monetary details with her!

[Kristin Fitzgerald]

Lion - You made my chuckle. The Panther as your Pimp. I wasn't putting in an offer ... I already have my own Lion and he is too much to handle to begin with!

[Urbane Lion]

Kristin: Oooh...OK. I'll get over it! I hope.....

[New Age Bitch]

I am all over a healthy appreciation of the sexuality present in anyone. Of any gender. Passionate people who radiate their own sense of joy at being alive are sexy, period.

[Urbane Lion]

New Age: That is totally true; I'm sure we all know people who aren't very sexy or attractive but radiate so much joy and positivism that they become sensual magnets! Welcome to the Den!